February 23, 2017
While we do not know the details, we know that the killing of children followed by the suicide of a perpetrator is often related to the relationship between intimate partner violence, control, and emotional capital. For instance, an emotional continuum can help us understand the range of perpetrators’ emotional styles, especially in relation to their management of anger, rage, hostility and aggression.
It is often presumed that male-perpetrated spousal homicide is the final exertion of power and control over their partners. According to the research by Neil Websdale, PhD, fatality review teams are finding that perpetrators who kill their children (and usually their partner), then themselves, often suffer an intense sense of shame about their masculinity, are socially disconnected and display a nominal sense of self. “While most familicide perpetrators have a track record of violence, some have no known history of domestic violence or intimate terrorism. These seemingly civil and often reputable men are frequently quiet, subdued, respectable, upstanding citizens who killed because their lives were spinning out of control. Bankruptcy, unemployment, destitution, familial dissolution or some other calamity profoundly undermined their sense of masculinity. Initial and exploratory research suggests the perpetration of familicide by civil, reputable offenders increases during difficult economic times.”
Not surprisingly, when familicide occurs, it exacts a heavy toll on communities. Advocates can also be impacted by secondary trauma with symptoms ranging from numbness and avoidance of feelings, depression, anxiety, self-medication, overworking and compulsive eating. Advocates need to know how to identify and manage symptoms; and how to process and integrate traumatic events. Self-care plans are essential. Boundaries are needed as well as a need for respite.
Here’s some practical suggestions for anyone who has to lead their organization through tragic intimate partner related homicides. And know that there is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ or ‘normal’ way to experience the sudden passing of a survivor we worked with or any intimate partner related fatality in your community. Here’s some things to consider when there is an intimate partner or sexual violence fatality in your community:
We Choose All of Us,
Earlier this week, Representative Chaney introduced HOUSE BILL NO. 198 in the House State Affairs Committee creating punishments for governmental entities such as cities that seek to create sanctuary cities. The bill states that a “governmental entity shall not adopt, enforce or endorse a policy under which the entity prohibits or discourages cooperation with the enforcement of immigration laws.” Any governmental entity found in noncompliance will not be eligible for 50% of sales tax appropriations.
At its core, it is a bill that embodies anti-immigrant sentiments and fosters a climate of hate and discrimination. It is exactly the anti-immigrant sentiment in this bill that will create a significant risk to women and children and anyone who is an immigrant that is experiencing domestic violence, sexual assault, or stalking. House Bill 198 will have a chilling effect of anyone seeking safety and accountability through Idaho’s domestic and sexual violence laws and life-saving services – from deterring immigrant victims from seeking emergency shelter at a community domestic and sexual violence program to seeking civil protection orders through the courts to reaching out to local law enforcement for immediate intervention in a violent household.
As the National Task Force on Sexual & Domestic Violence stated in their letter strongly condemning the recent detention by Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE) officers of an immigrant victim of domestic violence who was in court seeking a protection order from her abusive partner in El Paso, Texas, “perpetrators of domestic violence use a wide range of abusive behaviors to try to control their partners and prevent them from seeking help. In the case of immigrant and undocumented survivors, abusers often exploit their immigration status as a tool of control, threatening to report them to ICE, to have them deported, and to separate them from their children.”
The Violence Against Women Act originally passed in 1994 and most recently reauthorized in 2013 with the co-sponsorship and national leadership of Senator Mike Crapo recognizes the acute challenges faced by immigrant and undocumented survivors and provides important protections for them to come forward to be able to seek safety and to hold perpetrators accountable. This includes Violence Against Women Act provisions to protect the confidentiality of immigrant victims and prevent ICE from engaging in enforcement actions in sensitive locations, such as a courthouse where a victim is seeking an order of protection, and to prevent them from doing so based on information furnished by an abuser. These provisions recognize that abusers leverage victims’ fear of ICE to prevent victims from seeking help, and seek to prevent ICE from being a tool of abuse.” We believe that House Bill 198 violates the Violence Against Women Act.
House Bill 198 creates a dangerous and chilling effect for all immigrant survivors of domestic and sexual violence, further marginalizing survivors as they consider reaching out to community programs, law enforcement or the courts. Immigrant victims will be afraid to report crimes or agree to be witnesses for fear of deportation.
It exacerbates the already strong reluctance and fear of reporting domestic violence and sexual assault crimes. Some survivors have already described ways in which the police and the criminal justice system cause further harm rather than providing protection and this bill would increase the likelihood of stories like these.
Survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault and stalking already face numerous barriers in accessing safety. This legislation will only serve to push these victims further into the shadows.
When crimes go unreported and people are afraid to work with local law enforcement to solve them, we are all less safe. Everyone deserves the right to dial 911 when in danger. Fostering fear and terror among Idaho’s immigrants is not just unconscionable, but it also undermines the stability of all our communities and the safety of every Idahoan.
We strongly urge all of Idaho’s advocates to contact your local legislators and express your concern about the harmful consequences of this legislation.
Contact the State Affairs Committee to alert them to your concerns:
Many of the individuals who are impacted by domestic violence or stalking are experiencing violence through various forms of technology. For advocates working in the field, it’s often difficult to stay up to date with the most recent forms of technology that are being used to harass or harm. The National Network to End Domestic Violence Safety Net team has recently developed a Tech Safety app. The app helps users identify the various ways technology is misused and helps identify steps to enhance safety and privacy.
The Tech Safety app walks a user through how a particular technology might be used and offers ways for to increase safety and privacy. The app also has lots of resources, including Hotline information. Advocates can download the app on their phones as a way to provide safety planning and guidance to the individuals they are working with. The app covers such technologies as cell phones safety, device safety, location safety, online safety, harassment and impersonation. Best of all the app is free and easy to use. You can download it on your app store. Look for this icon:
For more information on the various forms of technology that are often used by individuals who perpetrate domestic violence or stalking, contact Jennifer Landhuis.
Enhanced Safety Planning for Immigrant Survivors of Domestic and Sexual Violence
Friday, February 24, 2017
11:30am – 1pm MT | 10:30am – 12pm PT
HUD’s Final Rule Implementing VAWA 2013
Wednesday, March 1, 2017
2:00pm ET/11:00am PT/1:00pm CT
The webinar is free and will last 90 minutes.
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