October 18, 2018
While the research shows that most people are opposed to domestic violence, we need to continue to make visible the complexities of domestic violence and the devastating impact on families and communities.
Among the most devastating are intimate partner related fatalities. A recent CDC study found that over half of the homicides of American women are related to intimate partner violence, with majority of the victims were under the age of 40 and 15 percent were pregnant. About 54 percent were gun deaths. Black women, Native American women, and Latina women experience the higher rates of fatalities. Nationally, only small percentage of men—around 5 to 7 percent—were killed by intimate partners.
In 2018 in Idaho, there have been fifteen intimate partner-related fatalities to date, (including both homicides and suicides). Of the fifteen fatalities, ten or 67% of the fatalities involved both the homicide of the female and the suicide of the abusive partner.
To reduce domestic violence homicide, we know that limiting access to firearms for persons under a domestic violence restraining order can serve as another preventive measure associated with reduced risk for intimate partner homicide and firearm intimate partner homicide. The Idaho Coalition will continue to work with Laura and Judy Diaz, Representative Melissa Wintrow, and all the state-level partners as well as with all of you to change Idaho’s laws to remove firearms from anyone who has a misdemeanor domestic violence conviction.
Thank you for all your work to raise awareness of the impact of domestic violence across our communities.
Being a father is the most wonderful, scary, anxious, joyful experience of my life. Each day brings a new “normal” to our house. For example, the “menu of choices” I provide our kids each morning changes quickly. Yesterday’s breakfast of choice (boiled eggs and bacon) slides over into the “Will Not Eat” column the next day. It is often a give and take. This morning, tooth and hair brushing were easily completed by our 8-year-old and 4-year-old, but neither could tie their shoes! Food preferences and task completion never seem to be the same from day to day. And it’s wonderful. How quickly the “easy” tasks of changing diapers and negotiating sippy cups has led to navigating hurt feelings caused by friends who no longer want to play at recess or a snub from a friend’s birthday party. Each day brings new views into their world and I believe it to be my job to listen, validate and adapt. To do this, I must be present, both physically and emotionally. According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, between 2013 and 2017, men provided 55.8 minutes per day caring for household children (under the age of 18). Time is a precious commodity, something our scientific labs have yet to produce more of.
Today, I am choosing to invest my limited time at our oldest child’s school during the All-Pro Dad Breakfast. Once a month, fathers across the country are choosing to share breakfast with their children at their elementary school, scrunching into cafeteria tables and dining on well-worn lunch trays, sharing time with other Dads and kids in conversations. Yes, dads are capable of more than three-word sentences that aren’t related to discipline. I know, wild right?!
All-Pro Dads have made it very manageable to begin a Dad’s Breakfast at any elementary school. They provide a script with questions for dads to ask their kids and for their kids to ask their dads. The agenda for the breakfast is pre-planned with all the meeting materials formatted for printing. The most difficult part, in my opinion, is showing up. Yet, showing up is just what is needed, especially from dads. When we are emotionally and physically present, our kids do better in school, are more likely to avoid the criminal system and less likely to be teen parents.
Join me and other dads, who are choosing to invest one morning a month with their kids eating breakfast and sharing stories. To begin an All-Pro Dad’s Breakfast at your child’s school, follow this link for more information.
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The Idaho State Police is hiring for a Statewide Idaho Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner Trainer/Sexual Assault Response Team Coordinator. The person filling this position will provide training and education to health care professionals related to sexual assault forensic medical examinations and coordinate sexual assault response teams statewide. Potential candidates must be licensed as a registered nurse in Idaho or hold a state licensure as a registered nurse pursuant to the Nurse Licensure Compact. The position will pay $32.84 per hour. Click here for more information on the position and how to apply.
Webinar: Generational Poverty and Domestic Violence Survivors Webinar
Thursday, November 1, 2018
3:00 – 4:30 PM ET | 2:00 – 3:30 PM CT | 1:00 – 2:30 PM MT | 12:00 – 1:30 PM PT
The Transitional Housing Team at the National Network to End Domestic Violence, in partnership with the Center for Survivor Agency & Justice, is excited to announce the upcoming Generational Poverty and Domestic Violence Survivors Webinar.
This webinar will introduce the intersection between generational poverty and domestic violence, and highlight unique challenges and barriers faced by survivors who are also experiencing poverty. Presenters will discuss the findings from CSAJ’s Racial and Economic Equity for Survivor’s Project, along with other research and innovative practices, and how it can be used to enhance survivor centered economic advocacy. Presenters will also engage attendees in exploring needs and exchanging innovative practices to address the ways bias and inequity show up in our work and as survivors navigate safety.
A Coordinated Community Response to Intimate Partner Violence
Sponsored by the Bannock County Domestic Violence Court
Thursday, November 15th, 2018 & Friday, November 16th, 2018
8:45 AM – 4:45 PM. Registration opens at 8:00 AM on both days.
The Red Lion Hotel
1555 Pocatello Creek Rd
Pocatello, ID 83201
Who should attend this free two-day training event: Judges, prosecutors, law enforcement, attorneys, victim witness coordinators, victim advocates, probation officers, treatment providers, evaluators, mental health providers, health care professionals, social workers, students and anyone who supports a coordinated community response to intimate partner violence.
All training hours of the conference have been approved for Idaho Supreme Court Domestic Assault and Battery Evaluators. POST, Idaho State Bar CLE, and Counselor credits are pending. A certificate of attendance will be issued at the end of each day.