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October 17, 2019

Domestic Violence Awareness Month: What Member Programs are Doing This Month

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Read more to find out what our member programs our doing this month to bring awareness and how you can help bring awareness to the community.

Advocates Against Family Violence
For the month of October, Soda Burst will donate $1 for every 20oz order of an “I Will Survive” soda to Advocates Against Family Violence. To learn more about resources and programs, come drink soda and talk about healthy relationships with Advocates Against Family Violence on October 24 from 4:30-6:30 at Soda Burst in Caldwell. 718 Arthur St., Caldwell, ID 83605

Advocates for Survivors of Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
The Advocates are hosting a Parent Night with Jeff Bucholtz from We End Violence on October 23 5:30-7:30. This interactive presentation explores how our ideas about healthy and unhealthy relationships are formed through popular culture, family, and narrative, and provides simple tools to help parents, teachers, and trusted adults make a difference. He will be doing another Violence Prevention Training on October 24th. Lastly, they are doing a book discussion on No Visible Bruises by Rachel Louise Snyder and offering copies for community members on October 29th.

Alternatives to Violence of the Palouse
Did you know that October is Domestic Violence Action Month (or #DVAM)? All month ATVP will be sharing information and resources from Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence and other amazing organizations to bring awareness to an issue that impacts the lives of so many.

Bingham Crisis Center had vigils for survivors of domestic violence throughout the month.

Coeur d’Alene Tribal Stop Violence Program is hosting an event educating on missing and murdered Indigenous women. Speakers in the morning and ceremonial activities in the afternoon on October 17, 2019.

Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault Center is running local commercials raising awareness and showing resources on domestic violence.

Elmore County Domestic Violence Council is hosting a Take A Stand 5K on October 26 at 9AM in Mountain Home at Legacy Park.

Family Crisis Center: Follow this whole month for more information on the work they do, involvement opportunities, and signs to look for if you suspect you or someone you know is being victimized.

Family Services Alliance of SE Idaho is hosting Take a Stand Against Domestic Violence, Pumpkin Decorating and Free Family Fun on October 28 at 4:30PM. It will be held at 355 S Arthur, Pocatello Idaho. They also encourage people to wear purple during the month of October.

Mahoney House: When you see the red Silent Witness silhouettes around town, please take a few moments to read and reflect. The Silent Witness Exhibit began in Minnesota in 1990 when at least 26 women were murdered by a husband, boyfriend, intimate partner or acquaintance. Since then, the project has become a national initiative to personify victims who have lost their lives to domestic violence. During the month of October, the red silhouettes that represent men, women, and children in Idaho who have been killed due to domestic violence will be displayed by our community partners throughout Salmon. Click here for more information on the Silent Witness National Initiative.

Mini Cassia Shelter for Women & Children is hosting a Candlelight Vigil on October 25th at 6PM at Rupert Square Park. Don’t forget to check their Facebook page everyday with more facts about domestic violence.

Oneida Crisis Center hosted their 6th Annual Purple Picnic in the Park on October 10. Please look out for a mailer they recently sent out bringing awareness about domestic violence.

Priest River Ministries holds their “Put In Your 2 Cents Against Domestic Violence” jars around town. All of the proceeds benefit Priest River Ministries Advocates Against Women.

Safe Passage Violence Prevention Center: Join Safe Passage Violence Prevention Center all month as we look a myths and facts, what Safe Passage does and our community partners!

Shoshone County Women’s Resource Center: October is domestic violence awareness month, help us reach as many people as we can. Our community awareness is our main goal. Let’s get the word out!

Voices Against Violence is hosting a Candlelight Vigil, Thursday October 24th from 6-8PM in Twin Falls City Park. Coffee and cocoa provided. They are also doing swag giveaways throughout the month. Check out their Facebook for their #countmein campaign.

ROSE Adocates held their 22nd Annual ROSE Advocates Benefit Dinner on October 7, 2019 – Freedom from Abuse ” A Bite at a Time” at the Weiser Vendome Center. With local support (food prepared by Hideaway Grill Restaurant and meat was donated by the Falls Brand Independent Meat Company) the evening included a prime rib and pork dinner, raffles, silent auction, door prizes. All proceeds went to victims services.

Shoshone Paiute Tribes STOP Domestic Violence Program continues to increase awareness in their community and provide support services to survivors of domestic violence throughout October’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

Family Safety Network held a Walk a Mile in Her Shoes event September 26th. Family Safety Network continues to increase awareness on their Facebook page and provide support services to survivors of domestic violence throughout October’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month. (FSN also was voted Best Nonprofit in Teton Valley at the beginning of October!)

Nez Perce Tribe `Úuyit Kímti Program: October 24th join them for their Domestic Violence Awareness walk from 12-1PM at the LHS track. The first 50 participants will receive a free DVAM shirt. They will have water and door prizes.

October 24th is also “Purple Thursday”. Encourage your program to wear purple for Domestic Violence Awareness and submit your program picture to to enter the “Purple Thursday” social media contest. Please also “like” and “share” Uuyit Kimti’s Facebook page. The picture with the most “likes” will win a fun snack basket. All pictures must be submitted by 3pm that same day.

Lastly, they are hosting Lunch & Learns every other Tuesday in October and November to educate community about abuse, encourage community members to take action, and learn more about options and resources.

Women’s and Children’s Alliance has a Domestic Violence Awareness Month toolkit that you can access online, as well as poster and social media campaign; Join The Village at Meridian by partnering with the Women’s & Children’s Alliance (WCA) at our annual Witches Night Out Fundraiser on October 16, 2019. Join hundreds of witch clad men & women in a night of music, fun and prizes to support a great cause. Our goal is to raise $20,000 for the WCA whose mission is to provide safety, healing and freedom from domestic abuse and sexual assault!

YWCA puts up purple ribbons every year on campus and around town. Look out for them while you’re out and about!

Shoshone-Bannock Tribes Victims of Crime Assistance Program – The Victims Assistance Program hosted and sponsored a Prayer and Walk on October 4th to honor missing and murdered Indigenous people. After the walk there was a free breakfast at the Victims Assistance Program office. T-shirts were shared with the first 75 participants.

Boundary County Youth Crisis and DV Hotline continues to increase awareness in their community and provide support services to survivors of domestic violence throughout October’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month. They are also preparing for their Fall Festival & Fashion Show fundraiser which is scheduled for November 2nd, which provides another great opportunity for outreach.

Civil Legal Services Available Through the Idaho Coalition

The Idaho Coalition continues to receive funding to provide civil legal services for survivors of sexual violence; these services are available throughout Idaho. Services available include those that will enhance survivor safety and privacy, ensure access to education, and help survivor’s navigate complex immigration, housing, public benefit, employment, and criminal justice system involvement related to victimization. Services provided in any given case are based on each individual survivor’s needs at that point in time. While our priority remains serving survivors ages 11-24, we have received a new source of funding that allows us to work with adults outside of the priority age range.

In addition to provision of comprehensive services for survivors of sexual violence, this new funding source also allows us to provide brief in-person or phone-based consultations for survivors of domestic violence, dating violence, and stalking. Brief services will include exploring legal options and providing referrals as appropriate and requested.

As a part of continuing to improve legal services and connect survivors the Idaho Coalition legal team will develop a community-specific outreach plan in the coming months. We may contact you for a brief consultation on your community’s resources, needs, and places to advertise services.

To find out more about this program, or to make a referral, please contact Annie at or by calling (208) 384-0419 x 303.

Annie Pelletier_Staff Photo_2017 Annie Pelletier

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  • Legal Questions
  • Legislative Updates
  • Sexual Assault/Title IX

Do you know about your local elections? 

I voted imageWhile most folks are focusing on presidential elections, there are local elections happening this November that impact our daily lives. Voting is one of the most impactful and transformational ways to ensure our voices are being heard and that our work to interrupt and end gender violence is addressed in our local communities.

Election day is on Tuesday, November 5th, and depending on your city or town, there will be different offices or ballot initiatives on the ballot. To get more information on who is running in your community, contact your county clerk. Information for all county clerks can be found here:

It’s also important to remember to check that your voter registration is up to date. Things like changing your name or moving would require you to update your registration. You can check that status of your registration or register to vote here:

But don’t worry if you miss the October 11th deadline to pre-register to vote, Idaho has SAME DAY voter registration, meaning that on election day, you can go to your polling location (8:00 AM – 8:00 PM) and register to vote that same day prior to casting your ballot. More information on what you need to bring can be found here:

And if you prefer to vote from home, or if you know you’ll be out of town or unavailable to vote on the 5th of November, you can request an absentee ballot to be mailed to you OR you can vote EARLY at your county clerk’s office. The last day to request an absentee ballot is October 25th and your county clerk will have more details on in person early voting.

Finally, make a plan on how you’re going to vote! Do you have answers to the following questions:

  • How do you plan on voting? (Early by mail, Early in person, on election day?)
  • How do you plan on getting to your polling location? Walking, biking, driving, carpooling?
  • When will you be voting? After work, before work, during lunch?

Ask your family, friends, and neighbors these questions too. Having a voting plan increases the chances of folks turning out!

If you have more questions about voting, please feel free to reach out, or check out the FAQ page at Idaho Votes.

In solidarity,


Jennifer Martinez_Staff Photo_2017 Jennifer Martinez

Three Things to reach out to me for:

  • Rural Grant
  • Grassroots Organizing
  • Social Media and Technical Communications

Change to Idaho Code 39-1390 — “Reporting” of ANONYMOUS ADULT Sexual Assault Medical Forensic Exam

As of July 1, 2019, there was a change to Idaho Code 39-1390 — Medical staff are NOT required to “Mandatory Reporting” of ANONYMOUS ADULT Sexual Assault Medical Forensic Exam.

This change in law has no impact on current practices with minors. Mandatory reporting continues to be required in all cases involving minors.

Please click the following link to view a memo for more information and clarification.

Healing: The Act of Radical Self-Care

As advocates who are committed to the hard work in centering the lives of survivors and children, we know this work can feel overwhelming, and at times, discouraging. Similar to the natural course of nature in upcoming Fall season, we know Mother Nature pauses and sheds to create new life. And we invite you to also take time to stop and reflect on this year. Take a few seconds to breathe in this process—big deep breaths.

What did the year reflection feel like for you? What was coming up for you in your body? When was the last time you paused, re-centered and re-grouped your feelings and thoughts? How are you practicing self-care and sharing it with those you work alongside with throughout the year?

If you are drawn to know more about how you can do more simple acts of healing at work, at home and in your community to avoid burn-out, we want you to join us in sharing a space together were can create hope, connection, and resiliency to a one-day Radical Self-Care and Healing Gathering that will take place Wednesday, October 30, 2019 in Boise, Idaho at the Linen Building from 8:30 am – 4:00 pm. A Member Program Connection Lunch & Meeting will also be held on the afternoon of October 29th from 1:00 pm to 5:00 pm. This meeting is an opportunity for you to connect with other tribal and community DV/SA member program advocates and executive directors, share 2019 program highlights, and identify areas of support. Lunch will be provided from 1:00 pm – 2:00 pm.

To register, click here.

During the gathering on the 30th, “Dr. Joi” Lewis and Jasmine Boudah will draw on the wisdom of the community to co-create a blueprint for wellness against the backdrop of racism and intersection with other forms of oppression-induced trauma: creating healthy boundaries, and healthy expressions of grief, pain and joy that allow us to heal and fall in love with our community and ourselves more deeply—or for the first time.

Together we will learn practices and tools on how to get grounded and present and on how to get unstuck that frees us from past and present toxic stress and trauma. We will also receive tools and information on how parents can talk to their children about things that matter, learn the impact that domestic violence has on children and on the parent-child relationship.

As an appreciation to all the work you do, we will gift a copy of Dr. Joi Lewis’ book, Healing: The Act of Radical Self-Care to all those who join us at this gathering! In this book, she introduces the Orange Method Approach that encourages us to play hard, think smart, get dirty, sing loud, love openly, eat well, and rest and not give up.

About the Presenters: “Dr. Joi” Lewis is CEO and Founder of Joi Unlimited Coaching & Consulting and The Orange Method of Radical Self- Care (Healing Justice) and Radical Hospitality (Social Justice). She is the is author of the wildly successful book, Healing: The Act of Radical Self-Care. She is a social entrepreneur and a highly sought-after speaker and executive coach. Dr. Joi is (as many fondly call her) is known world-wide as a consultant, space holder. radical-self-care and mindfulness coach, community healer, yogi, facilitator of liberation and social justice activist. She inspires us to hold heartbreak and “joy” as we reach for our own humanity and each other’s.

Her work is deeply informed by growing up in East St. Louis, Illinois and is grounded in healing justice. Dr. Joi completed her doctoral work at the University of Pennsylvania, conducted research in South Africa, had a 20+ year career on college campuses as a Dean, Faculty, Vice President and Chief Diversity Officer before founding her wildly successful company, Joi Unlimited, Coaching and Consulting and the Orange Method.

She is an unapologetic joy instigator, a certified kemetic and hot vinyasa yoga teacher, a facilitator of meditation and mindfulness and a food prep pro, living in St Paul, Minnesota. Dr. Joi is on a mission to “put healing in the hands of anyone, anywhere.”

Jasmine Tane’t Boudah M.Ed, CPE, affectionately known as The Black Lotus Mother, is a wombman, mother of a beautiful warrior princess, educator, community activist, radical doula and revolutionary advocate for Black maternal and mental health, reproduction justice and domestic violence survivors like herself. Her natural birth, breastfeeding journeys invoked a radical advocate who didn’t allow white supremacy, racism, ignorance, historical trauma or domestic violence to stop her in her pursuit to serve as a community doula and peer breastfeeding mentor to those in her community. She is the founder of Ubuntu Minneapolis, LLC, the co-owner of H.E.R Black Lotus Healing Collective, LLC in Minneapolis and the author of Mothering Through Pain and Suffering in Silence: A Collection of Stories From Survivors. All of the community efforts she has led has kept wombmen and children at the center of her work because she believes we cannot be liberated while wombmen and children are oppressed. By taking a two-generational approach to healing and understanding Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) we can truly lift as we climb and restore our nation. Healing the village is at the core of her Divine purpose her tribe is doing it one mama and breastfed baby at a time. UBUNTU!

Resource Share | New Video Series from the National Health Resource Center on Domestic Violence

Ending Racism and Oppression video series imageVoices from Our Movement: a 3-part video series on ending racism and oppression as the heart of our anti-violence movement.

Across the country, domestic and sexual violence advocates are working to address the ways that racism and oppression impact survivors’ health and self-determination. They are thinking about how history impacts peoples’ lived experience of violence today in our world; they are shifting advocacy practices to better meet the needs of survivors and advocates of color; and they are looking at how the anti-violence movement can resist racism and oppression as one of the most important ways to prevent violence.

The National Health Resource Center on Domestic Violence sat down with a few of the advocates who are knee deep in this work to learn about their perspectives, stories, and strategies. They have compiled what these advocates shared into a short, 3 part, videos series in hopes that it helps others who are also thinking about these intersections.

  • Video 1: Connecting the Dots: Racism, Oppression, and Work to End Domestic, Sexual, and Intimate Violence
  • Video 2: Racism in the Anti-Violence Movement: Impacts on Survivors, Advocates, and Communities
  • Video 3: Transformation is Now: Toward an Integrated, Intersectional Movement

These videos can be watched on your own, or used to spark discussion in a group! They have included sample discussion questions + facilitator’s tips, a glossary of terms, video transcripts, and a small next steps resource guide which can all be found on their website.

Training & Events

Intermountain Fair Housing Council | Statewide Training Events

Fair Housing Training | Coeur d’ Alene, ID
October 24, 2019 | 10:00 am – 4:00 pm
Coeur d’Alene, Idaho
Register now

Community Members, Housing Providers, Advocates, Government Personnel, and Attorneys encouraged to attend.

Register Now! | Collective Thriving
Wednesday, December 4 – Thursday, December 5, 2019 | Boise State University, Boise, Idaho

Tuesday, December 3rd – Pre-Conference
Reclaiming Our Spiritual, Healing and Ancestral Wisdom in Social Justice Movements
Space is limited

The Idaho Coalition Against Sexual & Domestic Violence invites you to join us at Collective Thriving (previously Compassionate Communities), a conference where we will explore ways to repair the harm from our culture of domination, extraction, and violence and to re-imagine a world rooted in interdependence, resilience, and regeneration.

Registration is now open. Register here today.

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